How can I break lethargic habits and gain control of my life and destiny?

Also how to cope with low self esteem??





What do you do, when people treat you inferior??





Surely the reason I feel low esteem is because the way people treat me make me feel so.





How can i not let other people affect how I feel about myself?





Are we not programmed to be independent??How can I break lethargic habits and gain control of my life and destiny?
omg, low self - esteem, story of my life,


dont worry bud, im on the same track as you.





what i did was, i went to a therapist and that helped A LOT.


create and trust a small circle of good friends, dont hang out with or talk to anyone who you know is going to make you upset.


and there are ALWAYS going to those certain people who want to bring you down by saying the worst things to you, usually to make themselves feel better about them. and i most deff. know who those people are for me. dont let them get to you. if they make fun of you, make a joke out of it. let them know their words do not affect you . it works, its happened to me, they stop making fun of you .





also, dont feel bad to accept compliments. when someone saysing you look nice, dont be like aw they are just trying to be nice. embrace it, believe it, know you are a great person.





i know exactly how you feel so i REALLLLLLLLLLLY hope you feel better. good luck!How can I break lethargic habits and gain control of my life and destiny?
Start by looking in the mirror, naked...say the following:





I am ENOUGH!





Every morning and evening, practice this. You do not need to prove yourself to anyone but yourself. Until you do that, you will be at the mercy of everyone around you to tell you whether you're good enough.





I'm so guilty of that. When I practice saying ';I am enough,'; I feel better, and my subconscious starts believing it! I need to do it more, so I'm glad you asked this question because I needed a reminder. So thank you!
Sounds like you have a brain nuerotransmitter problem. Check them out:





Dopamine


Serotonin


Gaba


Acetycholine
I wish you would read ';The Art of Happiness'; by the Dalai Lama. Low self-esteem, like happiness, is not caused by other people, but by your reaction to them! They can't ';Make you feel'; like anything - you LET them affect you that way.





No, we aren't ';programmed'; to be independent. We are a social animal, and need social interaction more than independence.





If you really want to feel good, volunteer for someplace where the people are really in need - a shelter for battered women, a homeless kitchen, a childrens hospital, etc. You will feel valued and needed and good about yourself, and nothing anyone else says will alter that.
Take a warm bath. Take a cold bath. Eat healthy. Plenty of fruits and vegetables. Take vitamin supplements. Exercise. Do you think this is the way of successful people? Believe it. IT IS!





Get yourself out of LETHARGY. Positive Thinking. When you take a warm bath, imagine that all the negativity, evil thoughts, toxins in your body are being washed away. When you take a cold bath, imagine your are being refreshed with goodness, your chest is so light its easier to breathe, your nerves are calm, pure white light is pouring into you, from your head and flowing down to your feet. This positive light is energizing you and filling you with goodness and revitalizing energy.


There are foods that might be toxins to your body. Identify them and AVOID them. Eat plenty of healthy food. Be conscious of healthy living.





Clean your room, your house of poisons. There are many chemicals that poisons the air in your room or house.


Avoid breathing or exposure to harmful and toxic chemicals in your household.





Exercise regularly. Exercise your whole body. Aerobic exercise does so much good for your heart and lungs.


Read about cleansing your internal systems as much as you keep clean your skin.





Have new friends. Join school clubs. Be active. Look for friends. Be gregarious and LIVE! Choose the good ones. THEY ARE YOUR REWARD..
There are many meds that can help you transform from a slug or toad into a productive human being.





Consult a mental health professional such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. ASAP.





';Are we not MEN? We are DEVO. D-E-V-O!';
u have to learn to do things for yourself and not care what other people think of you. like my grandmother is a painter but she has some issues n her husband always told her to paint landscapes and so she has for like 40 years but i was painting one day and she said , ';oh i wish i could paint abstract things like that.'; and when i asked her why she said ';cuz ur grandpa likes landscapes better';


u cant be like that. rebel against the images other people have made of you, if they say you're not good enough just tell yourself you are.


if you learn to care about yourself and love yourself for you and you alone without leaning on anyone else you'll discover that people's opinions of you dont matter so much anymore. this is your life and you completely have the choice to do anything you want in it. dont choose to be miserable
To break lethargic habits, you must make a conscious effort to get up and do things; don't allow yourself to sit there for ';Just 5 more minutes.';


To gain control of your life, you must TAKE control. Get up and start doing things to better your life; don't wait for things to be handed to you.


To cope with low self esteem, you may need some therapy/counseling. Generally, low self esteem is caused by a traumatic even, ill behaviour from others, etc, and therapy/counseling can help you move past those events. Also, the lower you feel you are, the more it feels like others are downing you. Having more positive self esteem can change a lot about you--your appearance, your health, the way you talk, the way you walk, how well you work, your energy, your alertness, etc.





How you not let others effect how you feel about yourself is to simply ignore what they say. People put others down to make themselves feel better. If they're dissing you, they don't feel very good about themselves. And, a lot of times, people (especially younger ones) will put down those that they're jealous of.





Humans are social creatures--we actually thrive on contact with others. There are very few individuals that can do just as well with no regular contact as those who get frequent contact. We are somewhat independent in that we don't NEED a group or pack to thrive (such as many other animals), but we do still need the contact.